It’s Bi Visibility Day, and I’m coming out

Today is Bi Visibility Day – an annual event where bisexual people can show that they exist. People, like me.

I’ve decided to use today to come out publicly. I guess I’ve always been bisexual, and especially during the hormone-charged teenage years, but it has taken me until this year to accept my feelings towards other men as valid. It’s a long time to repress an aspect of your personality, and I wish I had come to accept who I am years ago.

I came out to Christine a few months ago. She has been completely supportive, and I remain 100% committed to her. It hasn’t changed anything about our relationship, other than that we spend more time commenting on men that we’re attracted to. We have somewhat different tastes, although we both think that Justin Trudeau is dreamy.

Bisexuality is a spectrum, and, on the whole, I’m more often attracted to women. But I’m no longer trying to repress my feelings when I see an attractive man. I also realise that, as someone who is in a committed different-sex relationship, I have a ‘passing privilege’ that other bisexual people do not have.

So, Happy Bi Visibility Day. If you haven’t already, take the time to listen to your Bi friends, family or work colleagues, and see what you can do to combat biphobia.

Some collected thoughts about today’s London tube bomb

This morning, what appears to be an improvised explosive device detonated on a London Underground train at Parson’s Green station. At the time of writing, we know that:

  • 18 people have received non-serious injuries, mostly burns
  • There are no confirmed fatalities
  • It is being treated as a terrorist incident.

I’m basing what I know purely on what I’ve read on the BBC, as I trust them to report accurately and to verify their statements. I will be making some assumptions, and these are based on my 30+ years of living in the UK. I’m not a terrorism expert (although colleagues of mine are) — I am just a regular person who follows the news.

1. We don’t know who did it

Naturally I’ve seen some people jump to conclusions that this is an attack by Islamic fundamentalists groups, possibly linked to Islamic State. We don’t know this.

Notably, this did not appear to be a suicide bomb. Most of the recent attacks, especially the Manchester Arena attack in May this year, were caused by suicide bombers. This appeared to be an abandoned object.

Leaving suspicious bags or packages behind was a tactic more commonly used by the IRA, the Irish terrorist group. It has been a long time since there was an attack by an Irish group, thanks to the peace process in Northern Ireland. And I would be surprised if this marked a resurgence.

2. It looked like a bomb

It’s rare that we get to see the remains of what exploded. In this case, it appeared to be a large plastic tub contained inside a plastic bag from a well-known German supermarket (I feel sorry for their PR team). Photos and videos of the smouldering remains also seemed to show wires, and the BBC report that the remains of a timer were recovered.

This, in my mind, rules out this being an accident. My view is that this was an incendiary device that was deliberately planted.

3. It didn’t do what it was supposed to do

The device did explode, but appears to have caused minor injury. Again, from the BBC news report, it seems to me that more people were injured trying to evacuate from the scene, than by the explosion itself.

Because we have been able to see photo and videos of the device, we have also been able to see how little damage has been caused to tube train. And whilst I have sympathy for the victims of the attack, I am also pleased that the injuries were minor.

This bomb did not managed to cause the devastation brought on by the bomb at the Manchester Arena, nor the tube bombings of July 2005.

4. It may be some time before a terrorist group claims responsibility

Because it wasn’t a large explosion, and hasn’t resulted in fatalities, I don’t think that any of the major terrorist groups will rush to claim responsibility for it. If anything, this may be viewed as a failure; I expect that services on that part of the District Line will be disrupted for a few days, but it won’t cause widespread panic or disruption.

5. London remains open

I think we’ll see the usual responses following a terrorist attack: a potential raising of the overall threat level, more police on the streets and so on. But it hasn’t — and probably won’t — send large parts of London into lockdown.

Indeed, London Underground is still running a reasonably good service on most other lines, as I write this a few hours after the explosion. Parson’s Green is on the Wimbledon branch of the District Line and so this is, of course, closed. The rest of the Wimbledon branch between Earl’s Court and Edgware Road is also experiencing delays, which is understandable, and there are some delays on the Piccadilly Line.

But the rest of the Tube is fine. London is a resilient city that has seen more than its fair share of attempts to terrify its residents. I think most Londoners will see the events of today as something of an inconvenience, rather than a concern.

As I said before, I’m not an expert — this is mostly a collection of my thoughts. I wish the victims a speedy recovery, and await the outcome of the full investigation into what happened. I also hope that this isn’t used as another attack on the vast majority of peaceful Muslims (especially if it turns out that this wasn’t an Islamist attack).

This post originally appeared on Medium.

Kilnsey Park Estate

A photo looking across the trout ponds at Kilnsey Park Estate

A couple of weeks ago, Christine, Lizzie and I went to Kilnsey Park Estate in North Yorkshire. I’d been many years before with my parents, as it has a well-known inland trout farm. Located in the Yorkshire Dales, in the shadow of Kilnsey Crag, it was a place we’d often stop off at on the way home from a day walking in the hills.

This time, we made a day of it. Arriving in time for lunch, we ate at the café, which, as you’d expect, offers mostly trout-based dishes. Lizzie had trout and chips, and I had a nice trout salad. The café is open to all and there’s a gift shop which sells local produce. And trout.

Explorer trail

It’s around £5 per adult to enter the rest of the site. We followed the ‘Explorer trail’, which starts at the bottom of the valley and heads up to Kilnsey spring. This provides the water for the trout farm, and drives two small hydroelectric generators. Combined with a water-based heat pump, Kilnsey Park is able to generate all of its own energy.

There’s a small farm area with some pygmy and Angora goats, pigs, sheep and various chickens. Kilnsey is also home to some red squirrels; once prevalent in the UK but now restricted to just a few remote places in the wild. The red squirrels are in a cage, which, combined with their quick movements, make them quite hard to take photos of.

Heading out into the fields, and there are pheasants and grouse. And some alpacas – Kilnsey Park has been home to alpacas for around 100 years, and used to supply wool to Salt’s Mill in Saltaire near Bradford.

Further up the hillside, there’s a small butterfly garden, which lived up to its name – there were plenty of butterflies there.

And trout

And yes, there were more trout. You get to see the various different pools across the site, from the nursery at the top down to the mature pools at the bottom. Bags of fish food are available to purchase and Lizzie really enjoyed feeding the fish. For an extra cost, you can hire a fishing rod to catch the trout, although you also have to pay £3 for every fish you catch. Processing facilities are provided should you wish to take your catches home to eat. Lizzie was a bit too young for this but it would be great to come back when she’s older and a bit more patient.

It was nice to visit Kilnsey again, and I was pleased that there was enough to do there to be able to spend a whole day. It’s not expensive, and seeing the red squirrels was a highlight for me. Lizzie enjoyed it as well – it’s a good place to take an adventurous toddler. And there are plenty of good photo opportunities – especially if the weather is nice.

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